Monday, 30 January 2012



There's one thing that's absolutely essential to have to get results with MCS. (Mind Control system)

That vital element is called rapport. For our purposes, you can think of rapport as...

A close and harmonious relationship in which two or more people understand each other's feelings and ideas, and can communicate well. It's often said that with rapport, anything is possible. But without rapport nothing can be achieved. And it's all too easy to make a mistake, when you don't have the proper guidance.

Here are the 6 most common blunders,

Rapport Mistake #1

The first mistake is trying to be too "nice" to people.

Why is this a problem?  Because sometimes people are nice at the expense of the real communication that needs to be happening. Rapport then actually breaks down. As an example, let's consider a school teacher who wants to be nice to their pupils. They may let them get away with anything they want. Bit by bit, the teacher loses respect and the pupils stop paying them any attention. The end result is that it's all gone horribly wrong. So to avoid this be nice only to the extent that it's not interfering with the process of communicating feelings and ideas with the other person.

Rapport Mistake #2

The second mistake is that of trying too hard.

The problem with this is that it makes you come across as a little desperate and you trigger "The Law Of Reversed Effect". This states "The harder you try to do something, the more likely it is you'll fail". Now the way around this is to follow the simple rapport building approach set out for you in the "Mind Control System" Be aware of the things you need to do, relax and "get out of the way" to allow your unconscious mind to make things happen.

Rapport Mistake #3

This next mistake is linked to the previous one. It's wanting something from someone else too much.

You've probably had the experience of being in a store and talking with a salesperson who is a little too pushy. They want you to buy too much. They want you to like them too much. Because they're moving too quickly and because they want something from you, you begin to back off. Now the solution is something called "Fractionating Rapport". This involves building some rapport, then backing off a little. Then build a little more rapport and back off again. This way you'll avoid being seen as "needy" and still be able to build rapport surprisingly quickly.

Rapport Mistake #4

Mistake #4 is a lack of genuine interest.

A lot of communication between people actually happens on a non-verbal, even unconscious, level. Because of this, it's hard to fake being interested. If you're thinking "I'm bored, I'm disinterested, I don't want to know any more", the other person will most likely respond to your signals by shutting down or getting annoyed or just losing interest in the conversation. The solution is straight forward. Simply have a high, unconditional respect for the other person. That's probably a good way to view people in any case.

Rapport Mistake #5

This might sound a little odd, but it's playing the wrong role in a relationship.

When two people interact, status is involved. Now, often people will be of equal status. But in many cases one person will be a higher status and the other a lower status. When I talk about status, this is not a value judgement. It's a role that's being played.

For example, with a teacher and a student the teacher needs to have the higher status in order to teach effectively. You can probably see that a person's status will vary, depending on the circumstances. Problems can arise for you as a MCSP, however, when you come across someone who is inflexible and they can only relate to someone in a particular status. So be flexible in your communication. Sometimes you'll play the lower status. Sometimes the equal. And sometimes you'll be the charismatic or authority figure that leads the way forward.

Rapport Mistake #6

This final mistake is something few people ever realise. It's understanding the difference between "Deep Rapport" and "Wide Rapport".

Deep rapport comes about when you have a shared experience with someone. Now, this can be very powerful. But problems may happen if this rapport is very specific to a particular situation or context. If that's the case, when you see the other person outside that situation, it can be awkward. It's out of context and somehow feels wrong or unusual. The solution is to create what is called "Wide Rapport". This is where you build a connection with someone with different experiences in different environments. This can take time of course. One way to speed up the process is to use stories covering a range of topics. This way the other person gets a sense of your entire personality and gets comfortable with you in a range of different circumstances.

That concludes the 6 most common rapport mistakes.

Monday, 2 January 2012

Mental vs. Physical Training,


How we get stronger by doing a mental workout.

‘Mind Control System’, is about gaining strength by using our mind; to imagine exercising and that we can lie in our bed instead of going to the gym and just do the workout in our mind. So I was excited to learn of some very recent scientific research that showed just how much we can replace actual training with training in our mind. The research was carried out the Institute of Sports Science at the Justus Liebig University Giessen in Germany and led by Mathias Reiser and published in Frontiers in Psychology in August 2011.

They compared 5 groups of people. One did 100% of a training program physically, one group did 75% of it physically and 25% of it in the minds, another did 50% physically and 50% mentally, yet another did 25% physical training and 75% mental training, and the last group did no training.

The training consisted of 12 sessions where they did 4 sets of 2 maximal isometric contractions physically or mentally.

Incredibly, there was only a very small difference in strength gains between doing 100% of the training in the gym and doing just 25% in the gym and doing the extra time mentally. You really could lie in your bed on a cold, wet morning instead of going to the gym. The thing is, though, you’d need to do the whole session in your mind. But research of this sort really does show the incredible potential of the human mind.

The authors concluded that ‘high intensity strength training sessions can be partly replaced by mental strength training sessions.’ Is that a loud cheer I hear from those who love the feel of a warm bed on a Friday morning?

This is meaningful for people who are not able to do any physical exercise, perhaps through illness or injury, because they can offset some loss in strength by working out in their minds. Neuroscience research shows that the same areas of the brain are activated regardless of whether a person does actual training or simulates it in their minds and, incredibly, the amount of force produced by the muscles is directly proportional to the degree of activation of the brain area. In other words, the more you activate the brain through mental work, the stronger the muscle.

Research of this type is highly encouraging, for people with illness or injury, for people in competitive sports, but also for most people who do recreational exercises to keep fit. It lays to rest any ideas of the mind as an impotent ghostly thing, whose only role is to think thoughts and to analyse life circumstances. It is time we recognised the power of the mind and put it to good use in our lives.