Thursday, 22 November 2012


In The Name of Allah, The Source of Mercy, The Most Merciful.

There is another Law in conscious creation of reality that is as equally important to understand as the Law of Attraction. It is the Law of Detachment. It is this Law that gives the crucial distinction in utilising the Law of Attraction successfully. The Law of Detachment is complimentary to the Law of Attraction.

The Law of Detachment says that in order to successfully attract something, we must be detached to the outcome. If we are attached, we project negative emotions of fear, doubt, or craving which actually attracts the opposite of our desire.  We are operating from a position of worry, fear and doubt rather than serenity, trust and faith. Of course there are times when negative emotions are meant to be felt and acted upon, but our dominant emotions should be positive ones.

Anything we want can be acquired through detachment, because detachment is based on resting in the complete grace of God and trusting that He is the only provider. To be detached is to realise that everything good is from God and nothing at all is from us. It is God doing it and not our own, all we have to do is to have the right beliefs and put our trust in God.

Ease and perfection of action depend entirely upon the degree in which we cease to depend upon the consciousness. We have to take our conscious mind off it in order to let our subconscious mind take over. The pilot and the autopilot cannot control the plane at the same time.

To be attached means; to be powerless because what we attach our self to, we give our power to it. When we are looking at materialistic fulfilment for power and happiness, we are making something other than our true self. Detachment is knowing that whatever we detach from has no power over us, but we have complete power over it.

Attachment to anything will always create insecurity no matter how much of it we have. In fact, some of the people who have the most of what they want are the most insecure. Attachment to something makes us wonder if we will keep having it or if we may lose it. Insecurity causes unhappiness.

The search for security and certainty is actually an attachment to the known. There’s no progress in that, absolutely none at all. And when there is no progress, there is stagnation, entropy, disorder and disintegration.

Uncertainty and the unknown is the field of all possibilities or pure potential. It is ever fresh, ever new, always open to the creation of new opportunities. It is the realm of pure creativity and freedom. When we are attached, our intention gets locked into a rigid mindset and we lose the fluidity, the flexibility and the spontaneity inherent in the field of pure potential.

When we experience uncertainty, we are on the right path so we do not give it up. We do not need to have a complete and rigid idea of what we will be doing next week or next year, because if we have a very clear idea of what’s going to happen and we get rigidly attached to it, then we shut out a whole range of possibilities. Realise that there is an intelligence working alongside our own and it is the one that can bring us a better way or more worthwhile experience. All we have to do is state our intentions and desires and detach from the how and when they manifest.

Are there times when we want to work something out, but yet the more we try to work it out, the worse it gets? When God works; it is effortless. God arranges the situations for us when we are not in it, so that when we step in, we experience the blessings. It is so much better to depend on God than to depend on our own strength. What we can control, we should control. What we cannot control, we should let go and let God decide what's best for us. When we put our trust in God, everything is under control.

God will never deny our request because whatever we want for ourselves we can supplicate. But to experience non-resistance and effortless accomplishment, we must surrender to the will of God who only wants for us nothing but the best for we are beloved by the Creator who wants us to have it.

We may have the intention of going in a certain direction but between point A and point B there are infinite possibilities. With uncertainty factored in, we might change direction in any moment if we find a better ideal or something more worthwhile pursuing. We are also less likely to force solutions on problems, which enables us to stay alert to opportunities. One door seems closed, but there is another open. What we want can always come in another form. God never closes a door without opening another one, so we need to stay alert to see whatever new opportunities life presents us.

Imagine we found a job we are looking for. It looks like the job we want and it appears the odds are in our favour as we move from interview to interview within the office, yet at the last minute they choose to hire someone else. If we are detached then we trust that another opportunity, the right opportunity is on its way. However, if we are so attached to getting that job for whatever reason, we cause our self lots of anxiety and stress if we do not get it, which means we are looking for this job as an outside source to fulfil us on some level.

The Law of Detachment accelerates the whole process of progress. When we understand this law, we do not feel compelled to force solutions. When we force solutions on problems, we only create new problems. But when we wait patiently and in faith, the right solution will arise on its own. Confusion is the doorway to a new understanding. Order will emerge from the true faith.

We must have goals otherwise we are denying our inner desires, cutting ourselves off from growth and development. Goals inspire us to live, create and move forward. If we are not doing this, we are dying on the inside. We want to embrace desires and intentions but we just do not want to cling to them. Of course, we all want to realise our goals and desires, however if realising them is the source of our well-being, the source of our happiness or worthiness we will fail!

We have all heard of or know the classic stereotypes called overachievers who appear to have it all, the money, the fame, the status, only to be miserable on the inside. They have been setting and realising goals all their lives, and are still miserable.

This is why detachment is so crucial. When we do not have to have this thing in order to be well, or be happy, then we can let go and enjoy the process. Understand it is the process that is the joy, because the minute we realise our goal, we are going to be setting new goals. There is no realisation of any goal that is going to be the completion of us, once we realise one goal we are going to keep moving forward. I am sure we have all experienced this. There is no way that the realisation of goals is the source of our peace of mind or wholeness.

Life without progress becomes unbearable. It is the cycle of continuous progress that makes us happy. We are Energy Beings and energy is always in motion. To live is to keep moving. When we stop we die.

We learn from the law of attraction that all we experience is the result of what we feel. When we feel undesirable feelings, we attract undesirable experiences. Realise that when we feel undesirable feelings, it is because we are in a state of attachment to certain things that create those feelings. Break away from the attachment, stop worrying and bothering about it. Have not a care, act like it does not matter and our feelings will be liberated to more positive ones of fun, joy and peace.

The truth about States in NLP is really all about being in or out of alignment with our Self. When we are in alignment, we experience all our desired states such as happiness, confidence, freedom, joy, peace, fulfilment, empowerment. When we are not in alignment, we experience all our undesired states such as worry, fear, anxiety, uncertainty, weakness, frustration, depression and disempowerment. So in essence, there are only two states, a state of alignment and a state of misalignment.

Have fun, play the game of life. Remember there are rules and limits. Just have the attitude of doing something and then seeing what happens. Be in a position where we have nothing to lose. It does not matter whether the past experience was good or not. Keep moving on to the next one.

Some of the best things we desire just seem to happen to us when we are in a total “I don’t care” mode. And while it is happening, it is no big deal to us and it does not matter. But our acknowledge is the paradox of what’s going on in the situation, that we get what we want when we do not really seem to want it.

Be insistent yet detached. Focus on what we want, expecting it to happen and even when it did not happen, it does not matter. Have a detached involvement. There is a fine line between caring in a detached way and being truly uncaring. Just like there is a fine line between perfect good and perfect evil. Because the opposite ends of a polarity spectrum are really just next to each other.

Detachment does not mean we feel nothing. Detachment is not apathy or indifference. Detachment feels freeing! When we are successfully detached from the outcome we feel like all is well, like we can trust in our greater good, like we are absolutely certain that all that we desire is already ours. It is essential to intentional creation to get into a feeling place of peaceful expectation that what we want is already at hand. As long as we are ‘attached’ we will continue to focus on the negative aspects of what we do not want and the fears that come up as we doubt our ability.

Do not engage in something if it is the only option we feel we have. We are being attached. We will be disappointed and mentally shifted out of alignment with our centre, if the thing we want to do is not available for one reason or another at the time we want to do it. Create several other good options to take on in place of it at the time as well before we choose to engage in it. When we go ahead and do it in that manner, we will most likely get what we want because our energies are right.

To be unattached is emotional freedom and psychological stability. Keep our thoughts flowing with ideas. As long as there is flow of ideas, there is abundance. The moment we rest at any place, we stagnate and there is lack.

When we accomplish goals, we set new goals. We either progress or regress, we never stand still. We feel like we are dying if we are not growing, and collapsing if we are not expanding. When we keep advancing, our intelligence and knowledge will be in effect. When we become attached, our intelligence and knowledge will be of no effect.

To be in grace is to live in the truth that all things is from God and so there is nothing to cling on to as ours. To be under the law of attachment is to be enslaved by the yoke of bondage. To be attached is to fall from grace because we are trying to hold on to emptiness. When we are attached to our Self is of no effect unto us. When we are detached, we are blessed with God’s power and not our own.

Being unattached gives us the ability to drop whatever it is we are focusing upon at the moment and focus on something new. It makes us able to switch our concentration from one thing to another. It keeps our consciousness in flow and not fixed at any spot so it can be free and spontaneous in experiencing unfoldment.

Effectively applying the law of attraction requires both desire and acceptance. Practicing the law of detachment is how we can accept and expect what we desire. The two laws work harmoniously to support us in effectively applying the power of our minds and the laws of creation.

Every problem we experience in life is an opportunity for us to gain precious awareness that we do not already possess. A problem is an experience with a lesson to learn. The lesson contains the valuable awareness that will increase the sum total of our soul’s knowledge that empowers us to a greater level of living and being. The key to learning the lesson is in perception and lateral thinking. Be flexible and have an open mind. We will find the solution that we are happy with.

We are all God's creation whether yielded or unyielded. When we are yielded, we are of more use and become more powerful instruments and also enjoy the process with greater happiness. Do not care, just surrender our self to the Will of God. When we are detached, we are trusting and surrendering to God. Anytime we are not detached, we are not trusting, not surrendering and not yielding to God.

The law of detachment explains why productivity increases when a person takes frequent breaks from work. Being able to constantly walk away from what we are doing puts we in a state of rest and thereby able to continuously reconnect with the Will of God by keeping our thoughts in motion and our mind afresh. We may have stepped out for a while and feel lost and break in momentum and we can always step back into it again.